By: Robert Harris, Portland Divorce Attorney
I was going to title this article: Divorce in Oregon: Good Cop, Bad Cop.
I often tell my clients, let me be the bad guy. The naysayer, the person that brings up the issues that need to be addressed. Everyone thinks lawyers are difficult anyway.
You can be the good cop. The conciliator, the person who puts the kids interest above all else and just wants to be fair.
A successful negotiation of an amicable end of a marriage doesn't mean you give up all your rights, or have to be treated unfairly. It can mean however, letting your lawyer be the person who raises issues in your defense.
I just read an article about mistakes people make when trying to reach an amicable divorce settlement. And it's true. Most people feel bad about divorce. Especially when there are kids involved. They want to be fair, and sometimes they bend over backwards to demands from their spouse that are unreasonable but deeply emotionally held, and end up putting themselves in a real bad situation.
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